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Abortion and the decision to be a mother on TV shows.

I think there’s something wrong with our society when, still nowadays, people aren’t able to talk openly of abortion without being subjected to a reprimend. It doesn’t matter if you are in favor or against it, people still would snap out of their minds with the very mention of it and this needs to change.

Women are still having -and will keep having- abortions wether people like it or not, it’s a fact. Our responsability, as active members of a society, is to dig in into this controversial -and troublesome- ideas, no matter how (un)comfortable that makes us feel.

We need informed people, we need individuals to be confronted head on with this subject now more than ever, because we can’t keep avoiding it. Abortion is part of our reality and we need to see that. Wee need to accept that and carry on with our lives.

Lately, I’ve been pleasantly surprised to know that TV shows had surpased us on this very subject. Just last year, I’ve came across with four shows that aired different episodes with a variety of colorful stories were abortion has been treated like it is, a  non-judgmental day-by-day decision made by women about her own bodies. Sometimes accompanied by their partners, other times, alone.

Take Bojack Horseman for example, not only did they succesfully managed to make an entire episode (Brrap Brrap Pew Pew) devoted to treat the subject from diferent angles -controversial song included- but it also singlehandedly managed to create an enthralling story for Diane in which she decides to have an abortion with the full support of his boyfriend, Mr. Peanutbutter, and with no regrets whatsoever.

Within Bojack Horseman‘s world, abortion is a delicate topic to engage with too, thus, women are also demonized. What’s refreshing is the much human take of the situation. There there is this strong and confident woman who’s not ready -or doesn’t want – to have a child and her life partner is, nonetheless, by her side all the time. Talk about relationship goals.

Something similar happens in a stelar episode (When Will Josh And His Friend Leave Me Alone?) of the wonderful second season of Crazy Ex-Girlfriend, when Paula finds out that she’s pregnant right after receiving the news that she was accepted to study law in order to follow her dreams of becoming a lawyer.

And the show comes up with an interesting take on the matter and certainly one that a lot of women has to deal with in any given moment in their life: how much self-sacrifice should women have to face in order to achieve their dreams? What happens when life gets in your way? What you shoould do? How it will affect your life and the way everybody sees you?

The answer is, and as Crazy Ex-Girlfriend perfectly sums it up, to go on with it, whatever the finally decision is or would be. Eventually, she decides to go on with the abortion, with her husband by her side, holding her hand and taking care of her. Paula already has two kids and a prominent future looking right at her, waiting for her.

As we can see, motherhood is not, and shouldn’t be, an obstacle in one’s life.  Motherhood it’s neither a burden every women has to carry on their shoulders, nor an obligation that should be imposed on their lives.

This is something that crosses Lindsay’s mind on a poignant episode of You Are The Worst (Talking To Me, Talking To Me) when she is met with a crossroad deciding if she wants to go on with her pregnancy because she really wants to have a baby or just because it’s what her husband needs to be happy.

As an audience, we’re aloud to see through the cracks of Lindsay and Paul’s relationship. They are -and has been-together more out of a rutine than by a shared sense of love or mutual respect, for that matter; and, as later Lindsay realizes, a baby is not going to help improve it either way. Their not meant to be together, pregnancy aside or not.

Lindsay, as immature and impulsive as she is, ends getting the abortion without consulting it with his husband. Eventually he learns about it and, after a big fight, he too acknowledges that even a baby would not save their relationship.

The series is so nuanced and invested on telling this story, that they manage to make a powerful argument with it: being a mother is, as any other aspect in life, a decision that needs to be made, not by others, but by the couple involved; and, first and foremost, by the woman herself.

Fiona Gallagher, the matriarch and the (somewhat) moral compass of the Gallagher family in Shameless US has to make the same decision on an episode (NSFW) of the sixth season. After she learns she is pregnant she decides, with the help of her boyfriend, to have an abortion. As we can see throughout the whole episode, they are not ready to have a kid, nor they want to.

Praises aside, these four bold series have managed to do what any other show couldn’t, treat abortion not as the main event of an episode, but rather as a part of each of their characters’ stories. By not making a big fuzz about it, they’re really changing the way we should be treating the subject, like a life decision more than a game changer.